First
borns are natural leaders. They frequently live with a sense of
entitlement and even superiority. However, they often come in two
"flavors" complaint nurturers / caregivers or aggressive movers and
shakers. As a rule, first borns are picky, precise people. Their
attention to detail and order explains why accountants are
overwhelmingly first born- they they love paying attention to small
details. If you marry a first born, you're going to have some challenges
in your relationship with them. First borns like to take charge. They
are goal oriented, what complete control, and need to earn their keeps.
They also have a strong desire to win. On the negative side, first borns
are often moody and occasionally lack sensitivity. They can be
intimidating, particularly by pushing people too hard or refusing to
take no for an answer. They tend to be bossy, flaw pickers, and
conscientious to a fault.
MIDDLE BORN
Middle
borns are the most difficult group to categorize, in part because they
get grouped together in uncommon situations. The key to understanding
middles then is to think "rebound". To avoid conflict and direct
competition, a middle child will often go off in a sharply opposite
direction from the child (or children) above him. The "classic" middle
born (if there is such a thing) is very rational, tends to be a people
pleaser, and usually hates confrontation. Middle borns are normally good
team players, reliable, steady, and loyal. Middles aren't as
comfortable making decisions as are first borns. One of the interesting
paradoxes about middle borns is that while they tend to be mediators and
negotiators, of all birth orders they are usually the most secretive,
keeping things to themselves. O the positive side, middle borns are
usually very calm. They are skilled at seeing both sides of a problem
and eager to make everybody happy. On the negative side, middle borns
have a difficult time setting boundaries. They tend to blame themselves
when others fall.
LAST BORN
The
typical last born's creed is "What, me worry?" They have spent their
entire lives trying to draw attention to themselves. They are often the
performers, the class clowns, the life of the party. Because last borns
are always learning to do for the first time what their older siblings
have already accomplished, they have a drive to be noticed and thus can
be very good at persevering. Last borns often chose people-oriented
jobs. If you're a last born, you're probably one of the world's
cheerleaders. In all likelihood, you are probably a generally cheerful
person. You're an extrovert, energized by the presence of other people,
and you're probably not afraid to take a risk now and then. On the down
side, last borns tend to get bored rather quickly. They have a strong
fear of rejection and a short attention span. Because of their people
skills, last borns can be pretty good manipulators. The last born's
"lovable" exterior can unfortunately sometimes descend into a moody,
mean, and aggressive temperament.
ONLY CHILD
The
best way to describe only children is to take a first born and multiply
him by two. In many ways only borns are extremely similar to first
borns, but they take these traits to an extreme. Not only are they
leaders, but they tend to be super perfectionists. Only children also
live with a staunch sense of entitlement. If you marry an only child,
keep in mind that you are marrying someone who has never had to share
toys with siblings, compete for attention from parents, and has always
had center stage. More than likely, your typical only child is a list
maker, a scholar, and thrives on logic. Only children also tend to be
very conservative. With people, only borns may be introverted. Only
children are the mega-movers of the world. They are task oriented, tend
to be extremely well organized, very conscientious, and ultimately
dependable. Only children negatives can be tough to handle, martially
speaking. They are often unforgiving, very demanding, hate to admit
they're wrong, and usually don't accept criticism well.
Can you identify with any of these profiles?
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