Friday, September 16, 2016

First Born - Middle Born - Last Born - Only Child

Find out the traits and characteristics of siblings...


FIRST BORN
First borns are natural leaders. They frequently live with a sense of entitlement and even superiority. However, they often come in two "flavors" complaint nurturers  / caregivers or aggressive movers and shakers. As a rule, first borns are picky, precise people. Their attention to detail and order explains why accountants are overwhelmingly first born- they they love paying attention to small details. If you marry a first born, you're going to have some challenges in your relationship with them. First borns like to take charge. They are goal oriented, what complete control, and need to earn their keeps. They also have a strong desire to win. On the negative side, first borns are often moody and occasionally lack sensitivity. They can be intimidating, particularly by pushing people too hard or refusing to take no for an answer. They tend to be bossy, flaw pickers, and conscientious to a fault.


MIDDLE BORN
Middle borns are the most difficult group to categorize, in part because they get grouped together in uncommon situations. The key to understanding middles then is to think "rebound". To avoid conflict  and direct competition, a middle child will often go off in a sharply opposite direction from the child (or children) above him. The "classic" middle born (if there is such a thing) is very rational, tends to be a people pleaser, and usually hates confrontation. Middle borns are normally good team players, reliable, steady, and loyal. Middles aren't as comfortable making decisions as are first borns. One of the interesting paradoxes about middle borns is that while they tend to be mediators and negotiators, of all birth orders they are usually the most secretive, keeping things to themselves. O the positive side, middle borns are usually very calm. They are skilled at seeing both sides of a problem and eager to make everybody happy. On the negative side, middle borns have a difficult time setting boundaries. They tend to blame themselves when others fall.

LAST BORN
The typical last born's creed is "What, me worry?" They have spent their entire lives trying to draw attention to themselves. They are often the performers, the class clowns, the life of the party. Because last borns are always learning to do for the first time what their older siblings have already accomplished, they have a drive to be noticed and thus can be very good at persevering. Last borns often chose people-oriented jobs. If you're a last born, you're probably one of the world's cheerleaders. In all likelihood, you are probably a generally cheerful person. You're an extrovert, energized by the presence of other people, and you're probably not afraid to take a risk now and then. On the down side, last borns tend to get bored rather quickly. They have a strong fear of rejection and a short attention span. Because of their people skills, last borns can be pretty good manipulators. The last born's "lovable" exterior can unfortunately sometimes descend into a moody, mean, and aggressive temperament.

ONLY CHILD
The best way to describe only children is to take a first born and multiply him by two. In many ways only borns are extremely similar to first borns, but they take these traits to an extreme. Not only are they leaders, but they tend to be super perfectionists. Only children also live with a staunch sense of entitlement. If you marry an only child, keep in mind that you are marrying someone who has never had to share toys with siblings, compete for attention from parents, and has always had center stage. More than likely, your typical only child is a list maker, a scholar, and thrives on logic. Only children also tend to be very conservative. With people, only borns may be introverted. Only children are the mega-movers of the world. They are task oriented, tend to be extremely well organized, very conscientious, and ultimately dependable. Only children negatives can be tough to handle, martially speaking. They are often unforgiving, very demanding, hate to admit they're wrong, and usually don't accept criticism well.


Can  you identify with any of these profiles?


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